Failure

Most great things come from lots of failure. If you don’t try, and most likely fail, you will never succeed.  The telephone, light bulb, airplane, and computer would have never been created if their inventors were afraid of a little failure.

In our every day lives we fail at something every day. If your days are anything like mine you fail more than once. Fail to make it to work on time, fail to finish your “to do” list, fail to walk without tripping over something, fail to make something “healthy” for your kids for dinner due to lack of time. Most of these can be pushed aside and don’t tend to weigh on us, but what if you fail at these kinds of things every day over and over? You start to feel a little helpless and hopeless. The failures cannot become accomplishments unless we learn from them. Sometimes it almost seems that you are destined for failure. Failure to move up the corporate ladder just because of gender,  failure to find true love because you’re always making the same mistakes, failure to be true to yourself because you’re always trying to please others. When this seems to become your life, what needs to change to find success?

Making choices that you know are doomed to fail from the start and yet doing it anyway…. why? Is it the feeling that this is all you deserve in life because of all your other failures? Is it just a bad habit that can’t be broken? Repeating the same things that you know are going to fail, break your heart, or simply just backfire will never breed success. To be successful the key is to learn from previous life experiences and failures and make changes to keep them from happening again.

Human nature seems to get in the way of that sometimes. Comfort in your situation is a creature comfort that is hard to move past to be successful. Matters of the heart also make it hard to achieve success. There seems to be repetitive failure when the heart is involved. When the one place that makes you truly happy , calm and safe is also the place that makes you want to cry. These are the failures that hit the hardest and tear your heart in two and yet are still the hardest to walk away from. Is it the comfort? The wanting to make it successful, even when it’s not in the cards? Is it the struggle? The wounded heart must have time to heal before finding a way to succeed.  Unfortunately , success in one aspect of life doesn’t being happiness…there always needs to be some kind of balance and success in your own personal goals as well as those of the heart. Without the two you will always feel like a failure in some way. Be jealous of those who have the one thing you don’t.  A true love that lasts a lifetime, the kind that can make it through any depths.  A career that you seem to only dream of, to be in the top of the ladder with respect and have the financial freedom to just travel the world at a whim. When all you can think about is just running from it all and trying to start over on both fronts because a blank slate seems easier then cleaning the messy one you have created. At the same time trying to remind yourself that without these failures there can’t be success. The kind of triumph that fills your soul and finally makes you feel both happy and successful because you put in the work to come out the other end.