Truth

Why is it that something so simple is really so complicated? If something is supposed to be the truth, why is it so grey? There is half truths, your truths, their truths and “the” truth. If you believe something to be true does that just make it so? Everyone seems to be searching for a truth about something.  Why to we always feel like we need the truth? So you can trust? It seems that the two do go hand in hand…if you don’t tell the truth then you can’t be trusted. Now comes the tricky part… what if it is something that you believe in your heart to be true but in reality it is not? Does that make you a liar or just naive? It is at this point that the other person can start to loose trust in you.

As we grow up, the truth is something that doesn’t remain so black and white. As a kid it’s easy…either you did or did not eat your vegetables. When asked,  you would say of course I ate them, fully knowing you fed them to the dog under the table. This is clearly a lie and your parents know it, even if they don’t say anything and let you get away with it. As teens there are the same kinds of black and white truths,  but the grey does start to slip in. Mostly in the forms of how you view what is happening in your relationships. Your bestfriend starts to drift and hang out with someone new. Your truth is that she just doesn’t like me anymore and so I should just move on. Her truth is that she started to feel you drifting first because you spent more time talking about your crush then what you guys would do over the weekend. To her, you left first. So who’s “truth” is correct? Neither. There is the actual truth that can only be said from the outside of feelings. The truth is that both parties felt the same, just at different times and if they would have just been honest and upfront, the whole thing could have been worked out.

These kind of grey truths start to bleed over into adulthood. As we have more experiences and heartbreak, our view of “the” truth gets a little skewed. Someone could see that a coworker is pushy and overbearing but not see it in themselves. The truth is that the other person feels the same way and thus responds accordingly to their “truth”. When from the outside, you can see they are so much  alike they can’t move past their “truths” and come to a middle ground where the actual truth lies. This is also brought up quite often in divorce court…her truth, his truth, and “the” truth of what went wrong and when. The fact still remains that it really is the truth that can set you free and that most of the time the truth hurts. Maybe this is why we stand in the grey truth for so much of our lives. It also remains that once someone feels that you’ve lied to them, their trust in you is lost. Trust is also something really hard to gain back within yourself as well as in others. Truth can be a scary thing and a hard thing to find. I see it like flying. On the ground, it’s so busy with all the cars rushing around, you see the litter on the ground, the yelling of people either on the phone or face to face, and everything else in the  hectic world we live in. Then you take off and start to see the parcels of land, their different shades of brown and green, the cars looking to just stream through in unison along the roads, and the beauty of the world. Once you’re in the clouds, you see nothing but white and blue peace. This is where you can find truth, above it all, when you have seen all levels and are in a peaceful place within. Truth in the relationships in your life, truth in how you react and whether it was correct for the situation, truth in who you are as a person, truth in life. You must first step away to find truth, but once you find it you must find the courage to use it. As it will be this truth that sets you free from the circle you seem to be stuck in and the pain you feel.