Love

A glance, a touch, a kiss. Things that can break down walls and add them at the same time. Thoughts consumed with these things and what ifs. Why?  People form attractions for one another with things so small as a look. It’s been said that if you look into a person’s eyes for longer than 3 seconds you start to form a bond with that person. It is also said the the eyes are the window to the soul, so maybe that’s why something so small can feel so big. At the same time it is said that love is blind. How can the eye be the window if it is love that makes you blind? There are so many ‘facts’ and ‘myths’ about true love. How do you sort out what is fact and what truly is fiction? Is there really a love expert? Even those who have been together their whole lives don’t have the answers. Relationships are different for everyone. Apparently there is one such expert that he can just watch a couple for 15 or so minutes and tell if that couple will make it or not. This guys method has been studied and is now used as a baseline for evaluating couples today. What I don’t understand is how can we have such an unconditional love for your child, a love that fills your whole heart, and still have room for your significant other? If the love is true and pure there seems to be plenty of room. Even the Grinch’s heart grew three sizes the day he found love. However, true love can make you do crazy things. Like drop your life and move across country,  change the way you look or act to appease someone else, or even convince yourself that it was your fault. So how do you know if what you have is true love? Is it really like Cher says…it’s in his kiss? Would this mean that if everything else is great but you can’t stand his kiss, that it’s not love? Or if the kiss is the most amazing thing you’ve experienced but everything else makes you miserable that it’s okay? It can’t be just in a kiss. Maybe it is in the touch? When you feel the other persons love through just a touch or holding their hand? This could be true… We first learn love from our parents and family.  When your mom would jump into a freezing lake to rescue you or make you laugh when all you want to do is cry. It is these actions that state love, not words. Actions and touch. It is only the comfort of a mother’s hug that can calm a scared child. In her arms the child feels safe and loved. As an adult, it is this touch that we crave to feel safe in again. But without the actions the touch just isn’t enough… Yet without the kiss or the feeling you get when looking in their eyes there is nothing. You should feel love and comfort when in their arms, you should feel their love in the touch, and in their kiss. You crave their kiss everyday…the kind of kiss that takes your breath away. You should be able to know that through it all they will be by your side from their actions. It is not the words, maybe this is why that guy can see it from just watching couples. This is also why you should be aware of how you feel when you look into the eyes of another, how their kiss makes you feel, can you feel their love in a touch, do you feel safe and supported in their arms. If all of these things apply it is a true love. It is the kind of love that makes you feel like your high above the clouds. This kind of feeling doesn’t come along everyday, so when you find it you should not let it go, who knows when you will feel this way again… if ever.  Just remember that true love isn’t always living in a bubble,  but takes work and compromise and sometimes there is pain.  However it is the memories of that bubble life you shared in the beginning that will help get you through and make you even stronger in the end